Becoming Mumma

Becoming a mother for me was a massive acheivement. I'll be honest I've never really loved kids.

Most adults some how tick me off, let alone kids. You know when your shopping or at a restaurant and you think to yourself geez, I wish these people would control their little brats. Well now I'm a pram pusher and people think that about me.

Our son was definately planned and well wanted, my pregnancy journey is a whole other story, and It was a rough one. We wont be adding to our brood anytime soon thats for sure.

One thing that I did notice about becoming a mum, is that the opinions and ridicule starts early.

Mummy Shaming!!!! I bloody hate it and i really dont understand why people can't just be nice. I will admit it I've been pretty bitchy in my time and sometimes (mostly if you piss me off) I can be a mean person.

But Surpisingly enough the mummy shaming starts as early as conception. Natural Conception or Assited Conception? Do you think the child really cares how they were conceived, because all they care about is being wanted and loved.

Then there is the Pregnancy shaming! Do I eat the cheese or do I not eat the cheese?? Seriously I wanted to eat the cheese but I let science decide for me. What Vitamins are you taking?? are you eating right and still exercising??? I really wanted to tell these people to get bent and say no i dont exercise and i love mars bars ok! Mind your own f***en business!

"But when you have the beautiful baby there is no shame in how you have it, you birth the baby in your way" - Says the midwife. Fuck off, everyone is judging you!!!

1st place - Vaginal Birthing without any assistance with no drugs! while baking a cheesecake and cooking a duck! Superwoman!!

2nd place - Vaginal Birthing with drugs.

Last Place - everyone else! Basically when you tell someone you had a C-Section, they look at you like you lazy bitch!

I really did want to have a vaginal birth, but unforseen medical reasons I had to have a c-section and let me tell you, It was pain-free (apart from the spinal) and i'd do it again. I still believe I birthed my baby and I enjoyed every part of it, I got to experience him being born, my husband cut the cord and i heard his first crys. I almost cry when I think about those moments.

I hate to tell you it doesnt stop there, Breast vs. Bottle, Disposable Nappies or Cloth Nappies, Homemade purees vs. Pre-packet. Brand vs. Homebrand. Seriously the list goes on and on. I could bloody be here all day writing about it. I will prob write about these in the coming weeks. In my journeys.

But the one thing that I do love about Mummy shaming is, It forces me to be true to myself and do what is right for my baby and my family. People love to tell other people what to do, where to go and even what to think. Becoming a mother has made me even stronger and to back myself so much more in the decisions I have made and will make, are the right decisions for us.

This Is Baby Jack and I, after I came out of recovery about 30mins after he was born. Sweetest little dude ever.

Trying to be the best mumma I can be.

KC x

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